Hello my name is Lynnette Milligan this is some story. I met my Husband Bernie in 1980 he was in the USA Airforce it was love at first sight never knew I could feel that feeling in my life we had 3 children. After hard work we opened up our own Plumbing and Heating business in Connecticut it took yrs of struggle but he was such a hard worker finally in 2000. We were doing very well. On December 13 th he got an emergency call that a water main broke so off he went at 7 pm . It was 11:30 pm when my aunt came up to my room and woke me up saying there was an accident with Bernie that’s all we knew. We drove to hospital my 2 young cousins that worked for him were outside I kept asking what happened no one would answer me so I said “ don’t tell me he’s dead the whole ride there I just thought he got hurt. So I go in and it was in a wierd area off the hospital no one was there. Sure enough he had passed away he was 36 yrs old . They said he was in a huge trench and it collapsed on him burying. Him Alive . I’m shaking writing this and as usual crying . I didn’t cry I couldn’t cry sll
i kept saying when I saw him was “ where’s the dirt?” I guess they cleaned him up . Meanwhile it’s Christmas and we really hadn’t gone shopping for the kids yet oh yeah plus he was a hunter his whole life he wanted to catch a deer. That past weekend he did he was so happy the deer was still hanging out back on a tree. Second part. I go to the funeral home I’m in shock I think they told me the company he was working for had already paid for the most expert coffin and a vault and the double plot and the restaurant. Everything they asked me I just said yeah yes etc.. people from around the USA wrote letters sent money the town we lived in showed up with money grocery gift cards and even thru fund raisers I had the 3 kids she 15 13 and 11. This was in every newspaper everywhere but going back to the funeral home I was so out of it I didn’t speak up everyone said I should be appreciated that they payed for everything so it was a done deal. I was a stay at home mom with bipolar and alot of anxiety from my childhood we lost everything had to Move in tiny apt there was only one in town 3 weeks later the apt burned to the ground lost everything and were homeless I
put my 2 older ones at my aunts do they could still stay I. School but I took the baby and had to move to the hood .We would hear gun shots every night. I could barely feed my kids they literally lived on Domino’s pizza every night. I met the devil and I met Angels people ran the other way good friends and family strangers helped me more then my own Family. Dine then I’ve never had a one date .24 yrs later a lot of trauma therapy I have severe PTSD Anxiety depression etc.. The death tore our family apart my kids all have issues and I ended up
living with my youngest son and his wife and my 4 grandbabys. I still cry all the time becsuse of the way he passed he didn’t die right away he knew he was dieing in that dirt . So here’s the reason I’m doing g this . The company that paid for everything when I walked into that funeral home everything was a done deal. They NEVER CAME TO
ME AND ASK ME WHAT DID WANT FOR MY HUSBAND? and at the time i just said yes to everything im doin this know because we wanted to be creamated they took that from me if i had his ashes in my room I would not have spent 24 yrs living in the past because id just like ok at him and smile and say to myself ur here with me now i am appreciated what they did but how could you take upon themselves to choose what they did without coming to his wife and asking me what would Bernie of you want for him ? They took that from me . So now for my sanity want him dug up and Creamated so I can finally stop crying and thinking of the past they put him right back in the dirt where he died and it’s killing me slowly everyday I want him either me and when I die I want our ashes to go to our special place in. The Catskills Mountians at a place we would go to a beautiful waterfall and have my son put us there . We went there on our honeymoon and went back a lot he carved see names in a tree and every time we went back camping it was still there . I’ve researched what it takes to for what I want it’s not as much as I thought plus the double plot can be sold to . I have to get prices still I’m not telling anyone just yet but I thought I’d try this I’ve helped people thru fundraiser myself so if u feel this is something you agree with and can help my life will finally be complete having him either me and out of that dam dirt.
Thank You
Sincerly Lynnette Milligan
